Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Bright Winter

Happy Wednesday Faithful Followers!

A cold front arrived yesterday a little after 12 here in South Florida. I didn't leave work until after 7 and almost froze my butt off! I'd already said in my head I'd be rocking my Dagny boots from Just Fab. My blogger friend Shea at Curves & Confidence had the same idea. She texted me before I hit her up  (we text chat everyday ) to style me and we stated brainstorming. We get turnup when we can rock winter clothes and shoes, LOL!!

I ran to my closet grabbed this skirt, sweatshirt and two docent statement necklaces  and thought I'd wear the fit with black tights and heels. She suggested I go with the boots and belt the look. A bit later this outfit came together although I wasn't really sure after leaving home this morning  because I tucked the sweatshirt instead of leaving it out as she suggested. I received a lot of compliments on my bright wintery attire so I give the look a thumbs up.

What say you?

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Target Clearance Perfection

What I can create when I find two beautiful Fall floral pieces on the clearance rack at the Bullseye Boutique. I plan to rock the shirt as a dress on a weekend with flats. My butt would make the this tunic problematic for work in heels. So in paired it with the skirt and loved the print on print!

You can find them here. Skirt. Shirt.

Saturday, November 15, 2014

Saturday's LBD

Happy weekend y'all! I haven't posted a oufit in a minute because I still don't have a camera and anyone to take my pics. With the time change KT and I rush home, eat dinner, homework and sleep, only to start over the next day. He's doing well in achool.and band so I ain't complaining. 

This morning was one of those tightly packed days that I blogged about in my last post. Today was National ACT & SAT day so I took him to take the FREE practice test.  A bit later, I was headed to my sorority's Senior Citizens Luncheon. All after working in my classroom for an hour or so. #supermom

Attire for the  event was all black and our chapter blazers. It was already sunny when I left the school at 9 so I didn't wanna dress to warmly as I was going to be running around. I have body temp issues ladies!!!! My blogger friend Shea over at Curves and Confidence gifted me this dress the first time I visited her for the weekend. Now we find time to take the hour drive to hang out. She's fit, fine, an inspiration and feeds my shopping habits.

The first time I wore it I had to pull and tug on it every step I took. As you know, I've been working out since the summer but fell off once school started. I forced myself back into it despite my hetic schedule. More work to be done in the tummy area but the butt is lifting and tightening up. My arms and legs look better too. One of my students complimented my arms. Well he asked me if I box. Huh? Boy bye!! **grabs weights and lifts**

The back zipper is my favorite part of the dress. Gives it some umphh! I'll get the top altered once I can slip into this cutie without the hip hughing, LOL! Shea also convinced me to find a good seamstress and tailor and get. The work done. I love you girl!

I'm on the treadmill typing and need to pick it (go faster). Until next post...GO NOLES beat the Canes!


Monday, November 10, 2014

I've got the single super mom cape on and I wanna take it off!

I've been trying to get around to blogging but my life just won't slow down long enough for me to pose for a few photos or write good content because I'm exhausted when I get home. I sit on the couch and exhale, shower and go to sleep.

I've got the single super mom cape on and I wanna take it off! There are times, I just wish for days off. #youcanjudgeme I've mentioned before KT is in the band this year. He's a sophmore at the high school where I'm now working as well as involved in numerous community service driven/mentoring activities. We don't do everything but we do enough to have us falling into bed after homework is complete.

Being at a new school this academic year that's high needs requires me to work a lot harder than I did my last few years. There's new standardized testing expectations, common core standards and kids who need me to assist them in meeting old testing mandates to graduate! In addition, I'm a band parent. This means I show up at every game, competition and now parade season. Can't give to other people's kid what I don't give to my own. Right?!?!?!?

At the end of the week, I don't want to do anything but pretend to catch up on sleep because I still have church and other commitments. Believe it or not, I've scaled wayyyyy back on my personal activities. There's no real justification for running myself into the ground where I am no good for parenting,  teaching and enjoying life. I refuse to make myself sick. #bewarealowdownsingleparent

This Saturday I spoke at a parenting conference. One of the questions I was asked in the session was, what is the hardest part of being a single parent. That day I said not being able to teach my son how to be a man. Today I say, having to give so much of myself with no help. I can't recall if I've felt this way before. Maybe when he was younger and needed me more but he's 15 and I swear he controls my calendar. #waitingonmyROI

I also don't think having a partner, mate or boyfriend is a TOTAL FIX IT cure. I just need to work on balancing more so I can get back to my blog, reading for pleasure, working out more than once or twice a week and road trips.

So to those moms and dad's who maybe frustrated and weary. I feel yoy! Yes indeed!! God didn't intend for parenting to be solo. As I shared Saturday, it doesn't matter how your family came to be one without two parents...it just is. Make the best of it. Do what you can. Plan. Plan. Plan. Make breakfast at night if you must. Cereal and sandwiches are considered meals.

I'm praying for you. For us that we not get weary in well doing for our children. They are our ministry. Not a spouse. At least not now. I'm counting down my 2.5 years before Stella gets her groove back. #ratchetbehaviorforthcoming #kidding The best you can give your child(ren) is love, time and being present in the moment.

God sees our journey,  Amen.

Monday, October 27, 2014

My Test Was A Testimony

Today provided me with an opportunity to share my story of domestic violence with an 18 year old student. I was visiting an office to recommend another student for intervention services and was asked to provide a woman's touch to a counseling session that was taking place. Y'all it was too early for something so deep to be in the mind of a young lady who aspires to be a doctor! Yep!! Here's the short version.

The young lady is dating someone who is verbally abusive. Having grown up in a home with physical abuse and dating someone who had requirements I could never maintain daily, I knew this was a God moment. Before I continue with the story let me tell you why I believe my steps were orchestrated to visit the office at that moment.

Recently, I've felt pressed to pray for single women and moms. Many of us are juggling so much to the point of weekly exhaustion!  We'd love to have a helpmate.  Who am I kidding, I'd love to have someone run things for a week a month, a year so I can rest. But for me that wasn't a viable option until now. I couldn't see myself bringing someone into my son's life and things go gravely wrong so I kept my dating life separate.  Recently I've been hit over the head south the realization that in a few years (2.5) I'm going to be alone. Panic almost set in. #faithoverfear

I see others falling in love,  getting married,  blending families and still I felt like this wasn't something that would happen for me. I'd pray about being a Proverbs 31 and being swept of myget then I backtrack after hearing of a ANOTHER failed marriage or another church relationship scandal. Recently,  I've begun seeking God to teach me what it truly means to know Him as my everything. For my desire to be for Him not an earthly man who could disappoint. For me to grow in faith and truly know my value before venturing back onto the dating scene. #toomatureforplayplay

This in no way means I'm looking for him #menarehunters or that I'm ready for marriage. It means I've surrendering and have surrendered #workinprogress to God writing my fairytale love story. Taking all I've endured from my childhood,  not having quality examples of a Christ centered marriage and protecting my kid heavily influenced me to go ssssssllllloooowww! So I am.

So when I hear this young woman's story, I jump at the chance to tell her that she's  valuable to God. That He has a purpose for her life. That a man's validation isn't necessary.  It's nice but she's capable of soaring alone until her God mate is sent to her. He might be a high school sweetheart or she might meet him in college. Whenever their paths cross, he'll build her up and not tear down! She will beer more than his part time chick while he stills chill with the ex.

I reminded her that if he verbally attacks her and she accepts this behavior,  there will come a day when words aren't enough to give him that feeling of being powerful and controlling. I wanted to say run like hell but instead, I asked to pray with her. She sgreed. So I did. I asked God to guideher as she grew into loving herself so much that she'd be certain how someone should love her. That her dreams of becoming a doctor would take root and manifest. For her protection, daily provision, strength to walk away and to learn the heavenly Father's voicefor guidance to make wise choices. 

It was an unforgettable moment. If I do nothing else on my school campus,  I've intercepted the evil that could take this child down a road that could end in death so young. I'm humbled being able to use my own struggles as a single woman to empower a young lady who has a destiny of greatness inside yet to be unfolded.  Our daughters are younger and our sons involved in violence against each other. Be aware. Be alert.

For more information,  please visit:
http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teen_dating_violence.html

http://m.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/dating-violence-statistics

https://www.dosomething.org/facts/11-facts-about-teen-dating-violence

Lovingly,
KTsdivamom

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

My Job

Once upon last school year,  I hated teaching. Today. . .this school year, I can truly say that God has placed me in a place to serve.

I'm humbled!